Love Yourself, No Matter What Your Size Is


So here’s the thing, I am fluffy! There I went out and said it and laid it all out there. I have done modeling in my past. I am not going to lie, I have even exotic danced in my youth. I was always complimented on my looks and I am not saying that to brag at all. The truth of it all is I never felt beautiful and felt far from what was expected. I had my daughter unexpectedly at the age of 19 and started having health issues that effected my weight and this brought on a different set of compliments not that I was beautiful or whatever but I was really pretty for a big or fat girl. Some people don’t realize the damage that this statement can cause. My family has been notorious to this day to always say you would be a knock out and gorgeous if you just lost some weight. These words hurt. Just like it may hurt a thin woman saying “if you gained some weight you would look more beautiful”.

The truth in all of it is that words hurt and I have a huge complex about my weight but as I near 30, I am starting to realize more that men/women all have different tastes and I don’t have to be a size small to be beautiful. Maybe with time, I can regain the confidence that I once have but I wanted to let every woman out there know that you are beautiful. I believe we all are created differently and there is someone out there that will find you perfect just as you are. Our appearances will all fade at some point but the beauty of your heart and soul will outshine and can last forever.

I hope whomever and whatever size you are that you know you are beautiful just as you are.💖🤗😘

Love yourselves Ladies!!!💖💖💖

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  1. The girls in your example pictures are all gorgeous, and I know you are too, at any size. I would prefer that to some emaciated, supposedly ‘perfect’ model any day of the week. For me, I would never say someone is pretty ‘for a big girl’. I would likely think she was lovely because she was bigger. Time to throw all those ‘size values’ in the trash, and admire people for their warmth and character, irrespective of size. I hate how it is almost ‘accepted’ to say such things to a person who is heavy, yet nobody would think of saying ‘For a dwarf, you are pretty’. Enough is enough. Let people be what they are, and leave them alone.
    Best wishes, Pete. xx

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    1. I couldn’t agree more, Pete!!!😍 I hate how much people body shame these days! No matter the size or the outer appearance, true beauty is really from within. Your compliments made my day, my handsome friend. Thanks for always making my days brighter!🌞💜🌺

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  2. This is a great post Dani, and thank you for it, and also thank you for mentioning it also hurts when an underweight woman gets shamed. I’ve been underweight my whole life, with 55kg tops and I’m tall so I’d need another 8-10kg for my height. It’s mostly genetics, and the fact I’m a smoker for 13 years now, but in the last couple of years I’ve lost additional weight due to anxiety issues, and went down to 45kg. People around me would constantly comment how I need to put on some weight, would joke how I look like a skeleton, a stick, how the chair I’m sitting on weights more than me, and other rude things, like I didn’t feel bad enough that my pants would hang off my body even with a tight belt, and that my collarbones and ribs were sticking out even through thick shirts. And I’d get that from everyone, including my family, boyfriend, friends and complete strangers. I don’t want to say that fluffy girls (love that expression ❤ ) get it easier these days, but the fight against fat-shaming has become widespread, where I still get told I'm anorexic, in the dentist's waiting room, or in the bus, by complete strangers, without any consideration, so it would be great if people treated both sides the same. It can be genetics, an illness, or any other factor, but what we do have in common is that we don't feel comfortable enough in our bodies and that we should learn to accept that, even though there are and always will be people who just like to offend someone, in whatever way, for fun. I've just recently come to accept my sticking bones, and I've managed to get back to 55kg, and I need to accept myself this way, because that's who I am, so thank you for the beautiful things you said, you've touched more audience than you aimed for, and words have power, both the ugly ones, but also the beautiful ones you just wrote, so thanks. ❤

    Btw, I've been following you for a while, and you are pretty, not 'pretty for a big girl', just pretty. ❤ And sorry for the essay lol. Have a great day! 🙂

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    1. Awww!!! Thanks so much for sharing and your kind comment. I think it effects both sides of the spectrum equally!!! Nobody should be ashamed no matter their size, color or any other factor. That breaks my heart that people say these things to you. Well I have seen photos of you and think you are gorgeous just the way you are but what’s more gorgeous of all is your beautiful soul!💜💜💜 Thank you so much for your compliments, they made my day, my friend.🌺🌞😘😍

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      1. You’re welcome Dani, I think we all need more positivity in our lives, regardless of internet trolls and other people who thrive on our misery. 😕 You are so right, but it does get easier to accept ourselves as we age, I had huge complexes as a teenager and it stuck around, but I’m seeing things differently now and don’t care so much what people say 🙂 Thanks so much for your kind words, you sure are a bright star in this community! 😊❤🌺🌟

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      2. Awww that is so sweet of you to say, Marina!💜💜💜 I don’t think there is anything special about me and your blog and others are way better.😘💜📚 I love your bookstagram, as well!💜💜💜 I have to agree that we could all use more positivity in our lives.😍🌈🎆🌺

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      3. Thanks Dani! ❤️‍ 😊 Well there is, you’re really kind and inspiring, and I’m not the only one who thinks that. 😊 I don’t have a bookstagram yet, but I do plan to start it once I move to a better lit apartment. 😃 Thanks, and yay for being positive! 😊❤️‍🌞🌸

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      4. I must have seen your photos on Annie Woods account then! I remember the fox and you! I loved that photo.❤ I just love everyone to a fault but am super negative to myself to be honest. But it makes me so happy you think this about me. You are the sweetest ever!😚❤

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  3. I have to say Dani, being a bigger woman myself, there are uses to having big thighs, and hips, such as using your thighs as your writing desk! Or balancing piles of books on your hips. It’s such a kicker isn’t it, when people say you’re so pretty! … for a big girl. Well, thanks for that!

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  4. Well Dani the “upside” of “aging” is that we get wiser and less affected by others remarks. I think as teenagers we really rely on others approval and try to mold to some society standard. Now I’m way past my teenage years and I feel more confident of course. As you said everyone is unique and has his unique beauty 😉

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  5. The older I get, the less I care. Why is it so important that other people find us superficially beautiful? It doesn’t matter AT ALL. Just keep being your usual awesome self 💜💙💛💚🖤❤️

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      1. Aw no problem Dani, I had a feeling that was what was happening because I thought I had commented on a post and saw it again with nothing there from me.

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  6. Lovely post, Dani! There are times I need to read stuff like this. No matter what you look like everyone battles with insecurity. I mean I am thin, weighing 60kg with my 1.78cm height. But my legs are 1. m. Meaning my torse is really short. My hips are high, meaning they touch my ribs which is painful and gives a slightly weird body look in my mind. The dact that my jaw is crooked and I have a snuggle tooth gives me huge insecurity. Some days I really don’t care and I even feel gorgeous and then there are days I’d rather curl up into a blanket and stay in bed 😂

    Thanks for your motivating post ,Dani. No hiding in a blanket today 🤗

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  7. This is a great post, Dani. I am fortunate, I have always been quite small and I don’t have a sweet tooth at all. I know how hard it is for some girls to lose weight and I don’t believe weight defines people.

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  8. I love this post so much! I was also really thin. Even after I had my daughter, I dropped the weight. But then I went on fertility meds and anti-depressants and that was it. I gained so much weight. I’ve never had good self esteem, but it really dropped with the weight gain. I still struggle a lot, but I’m trying really hard to accept myself and my body now.

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed my post, Kristi!💜 I’m so sorry for what you are battling but it’s so brave of you to share. Please know you are gorgeous no matter what!😘 I am not in your shoes so I can’t say I completely understand but I have gained a significant amount of weight because of antipsychotics and anti depressants. I will feel so bad about myself I will stop eating but a little and I still won’t lose weight. Since my family is going through this hardship, I have been eating very little so kids have more than enough but I still gained weight from stress. So many people don’t understand the struggles of depression and mental illness and then the side effects of the medicine. Ugh. I can’t imagine what the side effects for fertility meds are like. I know with a hormone problem, I gain enough and feel like I’m hanging from the last thread constantly. I know I am rambling on, my friend but all in all you are a brave and beautiful woman. You have battle struggles and sure you gained some weight but it doesn’t change who you are and you are an amazing and gorgeous person.💜💜💜

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      1. Thank you so much. The meds definitely messed up my body a lot. I also have PCOS which tends to cause weight gain and sugar issues. So it’s always something. Seeing positive posts like yours help me a lot. So thank you again for it. I hope you have a nice evening.

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  9. if you are ovulating you can do several things:
    One: You can buy a basal body themometer from a drugstore. Sometimes department stores such as Target or Wal-Mart carry them Your body tempature when you are ovulating will be lower than when you are not ovulating.

    Do not use a BBT like a normal themometer because the change in your body temapture is so slight you will not most likely recognize the difference unless you use it in your vagina.

    Two: Check your discharge. If you are not on your period you can check the color and texture of y our discharge to see if you are ovulating. Normally when you are ovulating you will have a clear odorless discharge that has a texture much like the texture of eggwhites. Do you know that texture? If not crack an egg and remove the yolk (the yellow glob) and touch the clear stuff surrounding it. Your discharge should feel and look like that but have no scent at all. A good source is https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ovulation.calculator.calendar

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